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"Ja, livet suger av og til," sier hun. "Men vet du hva som får meg til å holde ut?" (...) "De øyeblikkene da det ikke suger," sier hun. "Trikset er å legge merke til dem når de dukker opp."

Når noen begår en urett mot en, så deler begge på vekten av denne uretten - begge parter må lide under smerten. Tilgivelse betyr at man velger å bære hele vekten selv.

Desperasjon kan få folk til å gjøre de mest utrolige ting.

I know that change is difficult, and comes slowly, and that it is the work of many days strung together in a long line until the origin of them is forgotten. He (Peter) is afraid that he will not be able to put in that work, that he will squander those days, and that they will leave him worse off than he is now. And I understand that feeling - I understand being afraid of yourself.

Since I was young, I have always known this: Life damages us, every one. We can’t escape that damage.
But now, I am also learning this: We can be mended. We mend each other.

I fell in love with him. But I don't just stay with him by default as if there's no one else available to me. I stay with him because I choose to, every day that I wake up, every day that we fight or lie to each other or disappoint each other. I choose him over and over again, and he chooses me.

There are so many ways to be brave in this world. Sometimes bravery involves laying down your life for something bigger than yourself, or for someone else. Sometimes it involves giving up everything you have ever known, or everyone you have ever loved, for the sake of something greater.

But sometimes it doesn't.

Sometimes it is nothing more than gritting your teeth through pain, and the work of every day, the slow walk toward a better life.

That is the sort of bravery I must have now.