[...] a certain way a man has of looking at a woman may sum up for that woman everything she really wants in a man [...] That particular way of looking, that—to use an example—impertinent, unblinking way of looking, may be what really causes her to desire, stimulating in her a desire which cannot be extinguished by all the fine qualities revindicated by the ego: a man who is caring, a good father, a good provider and so on and so forth.